Computer Problems - By MandyXclearA few months ago I put together a new computer. I hadn’t done this in ages so, naturally, I did some mistakes.

My main problem was not using the motherboard spacers. Yeah, I screwed the motherboard right onto the case. This (for those who don’t know much about computers) causes immediate short circuit. Fortunately my motherboard has a short-circuit detector and did not allow me to turn it on.

So I went to a computer repair shop with the PC, asked around for the fault, and immediately a guy pointed out my mistake.

I told him “I knew something was wrong, as I had to press really hard on the PCI/PCIe cards to get them in place, and even so they didn’t fit in well”. To which he replied “When something doesn’t fit in naturally you must be doing something wrong, everything should just fit in.”

So I went back home and put it together in the right way, and it turned on without a problem.

His words, however, stuck with me. They not only worked out for my computer problem, but they apply equally to all aspects of life. If something doesn’t feel right, then you must be doing it wrong.

  • If you eat something that doesn’t taste good, you spit it out or stop eating it.
  • If you put your hand too close to the fire you naturally take it away.
  • If you buy something you didn’t like you don’t (generally) buy it again.

So, then, if we act so naturally about so many of these things, why not apply them to cases such as the following:

  • If we are in a job we don’t like, why don’t we leave it?
  • If we are in a position we can’t handle, why don’t we say it?
  • If we are under a lot of stress, why don’t we deal with it?

It’s ALL about communication and action. It’s not about not being able to handle something, it’s about not communicating it to the right person. It’s not about not being comfortable in a job, it’s about doing something about it. Don’t be afraid to live right.

2 thoughts to “Learning About: Not living in a desperate way

  • Chris

    Interesting perspective. I think of things in a slightly different way. It is one thing to leave a job, or not do something you don’t want to when you are single and responsible for only yourself. I guess I consider it part of being a grown up, having to do things that I don’t always want to, or that are good for my familiy even if they really do not appeal to me, like a job.

    When you are a grown up, sometimes you have to endure pain as part of your life. Let me give you an example of what I’m talking about. When you have an infant and that infant is sick, it does not matter what your state of mind is, how you feel or what you want. You must take care of the infant. If you have a fever and have not slept for days, but your infant needs you, you need to endure the pain, and take care of the child.

    If you have a family, they must eat, have a place to sleep and clothes to wear. If it means working three jobs at various fast food places to get this done, you do it. It does not matter if the job if fulfilling or ideal, you need eat, your kids need eat, and you need a place to live. What you want, or wish for is just that, wishes.

    I think living for what feels right is the life of the relativly wealthy. Not everyone has that luxury. It is not about fear to get better or do better or fear of change, it often about being a grown up and enduring what must be endured to survive, and to make sure that what you are responsible for survives. Sometimes being a grown up means facing pain of all different kinds.

    IMO, happiness is a state of mind, not a location. Fulfillment comes from within, not from without. No job, relationship, thing or event can make me happy.

  • lemiffe

    I think you are right Chris,

    Maybe I should have divided the post into those who are single and do not have that many responsibilities, and those who are married and must carry the weight of holding the family up and steady.

    I do agree with you, happiness is a state of mind, however, I also believe that external elements such as location, status, finance, etc. influence most people’s happiness. I do not think it should be that way, however, it is something that happens.

    I know there are ways to segregate our emotional status from our status in a certain location at a certain time, however, it is something that requires mastering.

    Well… it seems like one of those endless debates anyway. Thanks for the comment!

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